I was a widow for 13 years. My 1st husband died in 2003 and I didn’t remarry until 2015. Something that folks don’t realized is that there are 2 protected people in this realm of existence for this time in space. And those 2 people are Widows and Orphans.
Logically looking at things, widows and orphans are the most vulnerable of humans. Orphan vulnerability is obvious. Parentless children are completely helpless and have to rely on the generosity of others. Adult have developed common sense. Children don’t. If an adult sees a pot on a stove, they know not to mess with it. Children… not so much. Adults know how to cross the street, earn income and pay their bills. Adults know how to secure resources for themselves. Children don’t. And if the child happens to be unfortunate looking….. Children are protected by the universe. Meaning if you do something to hurt them… you will meet the Universe’s wrath. And you don’t want that.
Widows are defined as women whose husbands have died. This order of protection doesn’t extend to men. This age has not come out of patriarchy. Men run things and don’t need this type of assistance. Women are either protected by their fathers or their husbands. In many Cultures that still hearken to traditional practices, when women marry they move in with their husbands and become his responsibility. So she is passed from one owner to another like chattel. Should that husband die…. who will protect her? She could go back to her father. But what if he doesn’t want her back? He has that right. What if her husband’s family doesn’t want her? Technically they are supposed to take care of her until she dies or finds another husband. If her son is old enough to offer his shield then that woman is not a true widow. Also if she is attractive, she isn’t considered a true widow. But we know that isn’t always the case. And if she has children…… So the universe protects widows and orphans.
Why did I bring this up? Since the Universe looks out for orphans and widows… that means that their work will be stronger. I’m not a widow any longer. I’ve not seen that reflected in my work… but I did see the widow protection in my life for those years. People who tried to take advantage came to bad … really bad ends… where I could see it. Some folks even got dead. Don’t fuck with orphans and widows.
Additionally, don’t strive to be one.